The whole kid thing.
This week has been interesting in terms of my uterus.
And by that, I mean that people have seemed to hear some clock that I don’t hear ticking away.
One worker told me that I was almost 27, therefore almost too old to have children. (But don’t worry, he told his 25 year old daughter the same thing)
Another coworker (who is younger than me and married) declared that if I didn’t want kids by now, I would never want them. And then asked “Don’t you hear your clock TICKING?!” His wife is a stay-at-home-do-nothing so of course she hears her clock ticking b/c she doesn’t DO ANYTHING ELSE!
I don’t let this idiotic comments get to me b/c it takes a lot more than trying to make me feel bad for NOT WANTING KIDS RIGHT NOW to piss me off. I mean, everybody is entitled to their own opinions.
But the truth is that I don’t want kids right now. I’m not married. MrC and I are at a point where we can save money pretty aggressively and still have fun. I want to lose weight, not gain it. MrC and I haven’t talked much about kids. We both want them in the future, but not in the near future.
Kids are expensive. And time consuming. I just got out of college 3 years ago (which was, ironically, also expensive and time consuming) and I’m not ready to be strapped to a crying, shitting (although cute) little being.
And I get that some women are cute pregnant people. My sister (#3) was. It just looked like she stuck a beach ball up her shirt- the rest of her stayed tiny. Me? I will blow up like a balloon. Be queazy constantly. Be an even bigger bitch. Hate being tired constantly. I’m not ready for it.
And if I try to explain my reasonings behind my not wanting kids right now, people look at me like I’m crazy. Like there MUST be something wrong with me.
Right now, I like being able to go on cruises (this May!!), go to bed at 9:00 (hello! loser, party of one!), and be selfish.
The worker above (who said that 27 is almost too old to have kids) went on after that to talk about how much your life changes and centers around kids. How you can’t go anywhere unless you drag the kids along, how much time they are… but then followed up with “But they are so worth it.” And I get that, I do. But for right now? I’d rather focus on myself and my relationship.
And if that means my biological clock is drowned out by the sound of a big ass cruise ship blowing it’s horn as we pull away, that’s fine by me.
Tags: biological clock, My Life
March 12th, 2010 at 12:07 pm
Good for you. Remember the commercial that says a baby changes everything? They are NOT lying.
March 12th, 2010 at 2:57 pm
DON’T LISTEN TO SHANIA. Just do it.
I’m totally not just saying that because I think you two would make the CUTEST babies. Nope.
March 12th, 2010 at 4:17 pm
i’m pretty sure that the average age to have babies in germany is getting near 30 now, so don’t worry. all my friends back in dallas are already married and starting to get pregnant, and all my germany friends think we are crazy for getting married at 25, they think we’re too young. so, it really depends where you are. if it’s not right for you and your partner, then there is no point in rushing!!
March 12th, 2010 at 5:20 pm
I waited till I was almost 32 to birth baby K…with no regrets. I ENJOYED my life before her. I had so many freedoms, and luxeries. You will know if and when you are ready. No one else will know that for you….
And yes, if/when you do decide to have a child, everything changes. Your life does focus on this new human, but because you want it to. It is the most amazing thing, the most intense love, I have ever expierenced…..but man am I happy I waited till now in my life to experience it.
March 12th, 2010 at 11:06 pm
Ignore them. Do what YOU want to do. They’re not living your life, YOU are. I don’t understand why people feel the need to stick their noses in other people’s personal business. I like to do things like this:
Coworker: When are you going to have kids? 27 is getting pretty old for it.
You (in a sad voice while making a single tear roll down one cheek): I was born without fallopian tubes so I can’t have kids. Thanks for reminding me.
Then walk away muttering “Asshole” under your breath just loud enough for him to hear.
March 25th, 2010 at 2:06 pm
yeah…your uterus must be shriveled and dusty by now…i mean 27 is ANCIENT! people are stupid! just…dumb.
March 26th, 2010 at 9:09 am
OMG. I hate those people for you. I had my first son at 31 (I turned 32 three months later) and now I’m having another one at 33…that was a good time for me and John because we did all the stuff that we wanted to do by ourselves…but seriously, if someone thinks you’re too old to have kids at 27?? They are super morons.