The Chick-fil-a thing.

Is anyone else super sick of hearing about the Chick-fil-a thing? Becauase I. TOTALLY. AM.

I’m tired of hearing about it, but it also angers me. For various reasons. (Also, I know I have friends who are against gay marriage. I’m fine with that. 90% of you didn’t post passive aggressive hate comments on buy-Chick-fil-a day. Everyone has their own opinion!)

One. I read something along the lines of ‘do you know what every place you shop at company CEO’s beliefs are?’ And they made a totally valid point. I have no idea what the CEO/President of McDonald’s believes or doesn’t. Nor do I care. I have no idea what Wal-Mart’s beliefs are. Or Krogers. Or any other place I shop at. So me not going to Chick-Fil-A really doesn’t make sense, unless I’m going to do a whole lot of research on which CEOs believe in certain things and which CEOs don’t. Everyone is entitled to their own beliefs. And Chick-fil-a has good chicken, therefore, I will still eat there. Also, as someone on twitter pointed out… Facebook’s CEO is an atheist. Where are all the facebook boycotters?

Two. Most of the Chick-fil-a controversy supporters are the religious types. Do you think you’re doing your religion a favor by showing others how involved you can be in hating another group? I once worked with this woman named Maria when I was a server. She was the nicest woman you’d ever meet. I never heard her say a bad thing about anyone. She never criticized my choices or decisions and she would always lend a helping hand when needed. At the end of the shift when all the other servers were fighting over silverware so they could leave, she patiently waited to get whatever was left. She was always the last one to leave. She would also mention her church every once in a while. And when she suggested that I maybe come to her church’s¬†service one day? I WANTED to (And I did). Because if the church she goes to helps make people like her be who they are, THAT’S what I want to be a part of. Not some group that encourages people to go eat at a restaurant to show the world how gay marriage is SO BAD OMFG.

Three. When I say that I support gay marriage, I don’t say “I DIDN’T go to Chick-fil-a today.” I say that I think everyone has a right to be happy and that I’m perfectly fine with gay marriage. I was reading comments about how “Chick-fil-a lines are so long, it’s amazing to see” and “This is the best Chick-Fil-A I’ll ever eat.” Passive aggressive much? Also, you just put an extra $1 million into the Chick-Fil-A CEOs bonus. Uh. Good job. Maybe you should really show how much you hate gay marriage by sending money to the government. That would really show them!

Four. Gay marriage is a religious issue. It is. The only arguments that I’ve heard so far is that it goes against the principles of marriage. Why is the government involved in that?

Five. And the most personal reason. When we graduated college, MrC didn’t have a job for the first couple of months. My first engineering job out of college offered domestic partnership benefits. Because of that, I was able to put MrC on my insurance. Did it hurt anyone? NO. Did it help MrC? Yes. Did anyone call me a bad person for doing it? NO. Fast forward to my current company who offers domestic partner benefits but only to same-sex couples. This meant that when MrC’s grandma passed away, I couldn’t use my funeral days b/c we aren’t married. Even though I’ve known MrC’s grandma for 6 years now, even though I’ve seen his grandma more than I’ve seen my own (she lived closer), and even though I consider MrC’s family MY family… none of that mattered…. my job didn’t consider her MY family. This put into perspective what gay couples go through. Imagine being with someone that you consider your family for 20, 30, or even 40 years. And the government tells you that they are not your family. And your job tells you they are not your family. How fair is that? Who are you to determine who someone else’s family is? I was lucky in that MrC’s grandma’s funeral was on a Saturday… otherwise I would have had to use points (which deduct money from my bonus and raises each year). All because my job wants to tell me who is and isn’t my family. And it’s theworld¬† telling gay families who are and aren’t their family.

Six. If we allow gay people to get married, it won’t affect 99% of the population. It’ll make the other 1% happy. So what’s the big friggen deal? As a comedian once said… “If they want to get married, why not let them be miserable like the rest of the married couples?”

I know there are people who are supporting the Chick-fil-a’s CEO right to free speech when they ate at Chick-fil-a yesterday (which I totally agree with). However I can’t help wondering how many people would’ve supported Chick-fil-a if it had been for the opposite reason (if he had voiced his SUPPORT for gay marriage). My guess is that it wouldn’t have been a record breaking day.

What did you think of the Chick-fil-A activity? Keep in mind, I’m not looking for hateful comments and those will be deleted. There’s a difference between being hateful and voicing your opinion.

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2 Responses to “The Chick-fil-a thing.”

  1. John K Says:

    I totally agree with all 6 of your points. The fact that someone can be in a relationship for many years and not be able to receive the same treatment becaus of gender, ie: same sex couples does not make sense. I think the whole thing is a bandwagon and people are jumping on one side or the other. What people need to think about is thier own beliefs and not worry about bashing the opposing side because nothing positive will ever come out of it.

  2. Wendy Says:

    We don’t have Chick-Fil-As in our area, so it’s not much of a topic of debate over here.

    RE: One… You’re right. You can’t know what every CEO or president believes (it is likely many keep their opinions to themselves as to avoid such backlashes) so ONLY shopping at businesses with your approved values would be impossible. I think the difference in this circumstance and what caused the response was that he stated his opinion on official record. It’s not like people had to research him or try to solicit his opinions on the subject.

    RE: Two… Unfortunately, they do not see it as hating. Most see it as preserving morals. As we know from history, there have been many criticisms/laws/purging in the name of preserving religion and morals. But that’s a whole ‘nother story.

    RE: Three… LOL. Like I said, I haven’t really seen any such posts because of our distance from Chick-Fil-As. It’s passive agressive, but they’re still making their point, I suppose.

    Re: Four… I always found the whole marriage being a religious issue thing strange. Hubby and I are not religious. We did not have a religious wedding. It was not in a church, performed by a religious official nor did it have a single reference to God or any higher power in it. Actually, the officiant created his ceremony using mostly lyrics from 80s and 90s music (which was perfect and meaningful for us). When we went to the courthouse to get our marriage license, they didn’t ask us nor was there a requirement for our ceremony to be a religious one. So, why is marriage a religious issue if you don’t have to be religious to have one?

    Jen’s Response: Okay, I didn’t explain that very well. I was referring more to the argument that gay marriage goes against the ‘meaning’ of marriage. The only people I hear say that are the hard-core religious ones who use the bible’s definition as the description of what a marriage should be.

    RE: Five + Six: Woohoo! Very much agreed with. Well said!

    Personally, I don’t care either way. I’m for marriage equality, but the CEO has a right to his own opinion and, honestly, I think it’s a little more courageous to stand up for what you believe than keep it a secret so you don’t risk losing profits. With that said, it’s my right to decide whether I want to spend my money at his business (which depends on a number of factors such as the significance/impact to my life and the offensiveness of the comments/actions). If this were an issue for me, I would probably make the choice not to eat there just as a principle (eating at a fast food place isn’t something I feel is necessary to my lifestyle), but I certainly wouldn’t protest it or make a fuss.

    I think the activists who made such a big deal out of this really shot themselves in the foot. Forgive me if I’m incorrect, but I am under the impression this is a chain popular in the south and that’s also an area which is still strongly anti gay marriage. By making a ruckus, the marriage equality protesters inspired anti gay marriage folks to come out and support the chain — many of which who probably weren’t even going to eat there anyway but now are and resulting in higher sales. This is something that could’ve very well been passed around through the LGBT and ally communities without making waves with outrageous protests and been a whole heck of a lot more affective, IMO.

    Jen’s Response:
    Yes- it’s mostly located in the south. As one person on fb posted (who seemed neutral about everything but made a good point)- This restaurant chain isn’t open on Sundays b/c of the owner’s religious beliefs… and you’re surprised when they speak out against gay marriage? Really?!

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